Name It To Tame It

I was spun up like a tornado. What set me off? A flurry of mixed messages, delayed non-answers and "just trust me's" for months on end without any real progress. I don't know about you, but those behaviors don't lay the framework for a trusting relationship. I'd say I was a solid Cat-3 and gaining… Continue reading Name It To Tame It

The Armor of Identity

Still coming down off a major training engagement, my brain is having a hard time decompressing. The "go go go" of non-stop learning, design, redesign, practice, launch, tweak, and present over the past 5 months was brought to you by Adrenaline: The You Can Do It hormone. It was an awesome experience - 300+ leaders,… Continue reading The Armor of Identity

Practicing Boundaries, or Putting Up Walls?

The way we protect our hearts, however, manifest in two distinct ways: We either put up walls, or we create boundaries. Walls are impermeable - nothing in, nothing out. Boundaries operate differently.

Navigating Uncertainty

Let's just start right here: It's ok to not be ok. A myriad of emotions, the last couple weeks have rocked and unsettled most of us. Many of us are struggling with the physical distancing we have been asked to practice. Here in Minnesota, our stay-at-home guidance was just extended another 3 weeks. It's become… Continue reading Navigating Uncertainty

Sometimes Moving On With the Rest of Your Life Starts With Goodbye

I know there’s a blue horizonSomewhere up ahead, just waiting for meGetting there means leaving things behindSometimes life’s so bittersweet ~ Starts With Goodbye, Carrie Underwood Last week was a very long week of goodbyes to people I had worked with and cared about for more than a decade.  It’s not that I’ll never see… Continue reading Sometimes Moving On With the Rest of Your Life Starts With Goodbye

Resentment

According to Brené Brown, the number one reason people feel resentful is lack of holding boundaries.  This is a reminder to practice good boundaries this holiday season.  We will all be bombarded with advertising promising a joyful season if we have the latest, greatest toys, appliances, fashion, technology. I invite you to remember that going… Continue reading Resentment

The Discipline of Self-Discipline

In September, I decided to take a close look at my finances to see where else I may be able to curb my spending as I look towards the future. With no one keeping tabs on me, it can be really easy to justify that happy hour, new pair of shoes, or medium half-caf, half-vanilla… Continue reading The Discipline of Self-Discipline

White Flags, Connection and Self-Compassion

Lately, it feels as if there is some cosmic upheaval in the universe.  Just as so many of my friends, family and colleagues have been in struggle, I am not immune.  Ugh, vulnerability sucks, right?  No one wants to FEEL all the vulnerable things in life; we want certainty and guarantees.  At least I do. … Continue reading White Flags, Connection and Self-Compassion

Struggle and Comfort: A Reflection

This week, I had the privilege of leading the first session of my online Dare to Lead book discussion. Not one for small talk, I wanted this time with others to be valuable for all parties. Participants chose that they wanted to talk about Daring Leadership Principle #6 - Modeling Clarity, Kindness and Hope as… Continue reading Struggle and Comfort: A Reflection