I lost my way. I had cared so much about what this person thought about me that I let it override my own self-perception. I tried every which way to reconcile and justify their words, and I cried more tears and more times than I care to admit, but what I didn't do was stop and question what they had said. I just took it as truth. It wasn't.
I've been gathering a lot of inspiration in the first couple days of 2021. It feels exciting and terrifying, brave and vulnerable. What we do matters.
Are you calling people in, or calling them out? Use Love as a leadership tool to make a meaningful difference in your relationships in 2021.
I have always had a hard time saying "No". While I'm no pushover, I definitely don't like disappointing people. The trouble is while I might not disappoint others, I disappoint myself in the process. After a year-long rumble with myself, I made the decision to hire someone to clean my house. This seemingly small decision… Continue reading The Hardest Words (Part 2): No
I've spent a lot of time thinking about stories recently. With their heroes and villains, plot lines and plot twists, stories create meaning and connect us. Stories give us a reason to love, a reason to loathe, and a reason to listen. However, not all stories serve us well. How many times have you gotten… Continue reading The Stories We Tell Ourselves
I was spun up like a tornado. What set me off? A flurry of mixed messages, delayed non-answers and "just trust me's" for months on end without any real progress. I don't know about you, but those behaviors don't lay the framework for a trusting relationship. I'd say I was a solid Cat-3 and gaining… Continue reading Name It To Tame It
Still coming down off a major training engagement, my brain is having a hard time decompressing. The "go go go" of non-stop learning, design, redesign, practice, launch, tweak, and present over the past 5 months was brought to you by Adrenaline: The You Can Do It hormone. It was an awesome experience - 300+ leaders,… Continue reading The Armor of Identity
The way we protect our hearts, however, manifest in two distinct ways: We either put up walls, or we create boundaries. Walls are impermeable - nothing in, nothing out. Boundaries operate differently.
Let's just start right here: It's ok to not be ok. A myriad of emotions, the last couple weeks have rocked and unsettled most of us. Many of us are struggling with the physical distancing we have been asked to practice. Here in Minnesota, our stay-at-home guidance was just extended another 3 weeks. It's become… Continue reading Navigating Uncertainty