Surfacing

As I finish writing in the last couple of blank pages of a lake journal I started in 2015, I find myself deep in contemplation this morning about how much has changed. About how much has stayed the same. About how I have made so much progress, and no progress at all. This journal is… Continue reading Surfacing

Power, Influence and Structural Change

I've been thinking a lot about Power lately. I had a friend tell me that one of the reasons he was drawn to me was because he perceived me as "powerful". This caught me off guard. I don't think of myself as powerful, in the traditional sense, as much as "influential". My purpose in this… Continue reading Power, Influence and Structural Change

What Are You Ready For?

"What are you ready for, Paula?" It was a simple question that was asked of me gently as I was talking with a friend. I had been spinning in a story I was telling myself: I wasn't yet ready to launch. The question she posed, rooted in curiosity, was one that didn't even cross my mind. What AM I ready for?

Name It To Tame It

I was spun up like a tornado. What set me off? A flurry of mixed messages, delayed non-answers and "just trust me's" for months on end without any real progress. I don't know about you, but those behaviors don't lay the framework for a trusting relationship. I'd say I was a solid Cat-3 and gaining… Continue reading Name It To Tame It

Practicing Boundaries, or Putting Up Walls?

The way we protect our hearts, however, manifest in two distinct ways: We either put up walls, or we create boundaries. Walls are impermeable - nothing in, nothing out. Boundaries operate differently.