It isn't that I hadn't noticed that my pajama pants were tattered. It was hard not to notice, I just couldn't bring myself to throw them away. Giving ourselves permission to do what we know needs to be done gives us freedom. And a lesson.
The way we protect our hearts, however, manifest in two distinct ways: We either put up walls, or we create boundaries. Walls are impermeable - nothing in, nothing out. Boundaries operate differently.