I lost my way. I had cared so much about what this person thought about me that I let it override my own self-perception. I tried every which way to reconcile and justify their words, and I cried more tears and more times than I care to admit, but what I didn't do was stop and question what they had said. I just took it as truth. It wasn't.
The Hardest Words (Part 2): No
I have always had a hard time saying "No". While I'm no pushover, I definitely don't like disappointing people. The trouble is while I might not disappoint others, I disappoint myself in the process. After a year-long rumble with myself, I made the decision to hire someone to clean my house. This seemingly small decision… Continue reading The Hardest Words (Part 2): No
The Freedom of Permission
It isn't that I hadn't noticed that my pajama pants were tattered. It was hard not to notice, I just couldn't bring myself to throw them away. Giving ourselves permission to do what we know needs to be done gives us freedom. And a lesson.
Practicing Boundaries, or Putting Up Walls?
The way we protect our hearts, however, manifest in two distinct ways: We either put up walls, or we create boundaries. Walls are impermeable - nothing in, nothing out. Boundaries operate differently.
Becoming More Myself
It's always funny how the Universe rewards me when I take time to slow down. Thoughts flow freely and I settle into a different, more in-touch version of myself. It's a gift. I usually devour books on vacation, and this vacation has been no different. The raw truth and authenticity that Alicia Keys has gifted… Continue reading Becoming More Myself
There's a tender space in the in-between where what was and what is yet to come gives way to what is. It's a pensive space of acknowledgement and gratitude for seeing how all life events line up for our greatest good and how bittersweet endings are disguised as new beginnings. A space where today has… Continue reading The In-Between
According to Brené Brown, the number one reason people feel resentful is lack of holding boundaries. This is a reminder to practice good boundaries this holiday season. We will all be bombarded with advertising promising a joyful season if we have the latest, greatest toys, appliances, fashion, technology. I invite you to remember that going… Continue reading Resentment
White Flags, Connection and Self-Compassion
Lately, it feels as if there is some cosmic upheaval in the universe. Just as so many of my friends, family and colleagues have been in struggle, I am not immune. Ugh, vulnerability sucks, right? No one wants to FEEL all the vulnerable things in life; we want certainty and guarantees. At least I do. … Continue reading White Flags, Connection and Self-Compassion