I lost my way. I had cared so much about what this person thought about me that I let it override my own self-perception. I tried every which way to reconcile and justify their words, and I cried more tears and more times than I care to admit, but what I didn't do was stop and question what they had said. I just took it as truth. It wasn't.
I have always had a hard time saying "No". While I'm no pushover, I definitely don't like disappointing people. The trouble is while I might not disappoint others, I disappoint myself in the process. After a year-long rumble with myself, I made the decision to hire someone to clean my house. This seemingly small decision… Continue reading The Hardest Words (Part 2): No
It isn't that I hadn't noticed that my pajama pants were tattered. It was hard not to notice, I just couldn't bring myself to throw them away. Giving ourselves permission to do what we know needs to be done gives us freedom. And a lesson.
The way we protect our hearts, however, manifest in two distinct ways: We either put up walls, or we create boundaries. Walls are impermeable - nothing in, nothing out. Boundaries operate differently.
It's always funny how the Universe rewards me when I take time to slow down. Thoughts flow freely and I settle into a different, more in-touch version of myself. It's a gift. I usually devour books on vacation, and this vacation has been no different. The raw truth and authenticity that Alicia Keys has gifted… Continue reading Becoming More Myself
There's a tender space in the in-between where what was and what is yet to come gives way to what is. It's a pensive space of acknowledgement and gratitude for seeing how all life events line up for our greatest good and how bittersweet endings are disguised as new beginnings. A space where today has… Continue reading The In-Between
According to Brené Brown, the number one reason people feel resentful is lack of holding boundaries. This is a reminder to practice good boundaries this holiday season. We will all be bombarded with advertising promising a joyful season if we have the latest, greatest toys, appliances, fashion, technology. I invite you to remember that going… Continue reading Resentment
Lately, it feels as if there is some cosmic upheaval in the universe. Just as so many of my friends, family and colleagues have been in struggle, I am not immune. Ugh, vulnerability sucks, right? No one wants to FEEL all the vulnerable things in life; we want certainty and guarantees. At least I do. … Continue reading White Flags, Connection and Self-Compassion