I lost my way. I had cared so much about what this person thought about me that I let it override my own self-perception. I tried every which way to reconcile and justify their words, and I cried more tears and more times than I care to admit, but what I didn't do was stop and question what they had said. I just took it as truth. It wasn't.
I've been thinking a lot about Power lately. I had a friend tell me that one of the reasons he was drawn to me was because he perceived me as "powerful". This caught me off guard. I don't think of myself as powerful, in the traditional sense, as much as "influential". My purpose in this… Continue reading Power, Influence and Structural Change
I've been gathering a lot of inspiration in the first couple days of 2021. It feels exciting and terrifying, brave and vulnerable. What we do matters.
"What are you ready for, Paula?" It was a simple question that was asked of me gently as I was talking with a friend. I had been spinning in a story I was telling myself: I wasn't yet ready to launch. The question she posed, rooted in curiosity, was one that didn't even cross my mind. What AM I ready for?
As we close out the year, I find myself firmly rooted in gratitude. In many ways, 2020 has been the most difficult year of our lives. Like a rollercoaster ride with a side of whiplash, we are weathering an unraveling of our economy, navigating and adjusting to life during a pandemic, and we collectively survived… Continue reading Moving Forward By Giving Back
Are you calling people in, or calling them out? Use Love as a leadership tool to make a meaningful difference in your relationships in 2021.
I have always had a hard time saying "No". While I'm no pushover, I definitely don't like disappointing people. The trouble is while I might not disappoint others, I disappoint myself in the process. After a year-long rumble with myself, I made the decision to hire someone to clean my house. This seemingly small decision… Continue reading The Hardest Words (Part 2): No
I've spent a lot of time thinking about stories recently. With their heroes and villains, plot lines and plot twists, stories create meaning and connect us. Stories give us a reason to love, a reason to loathe, and a reason to listen. However, not all stories serve us well. How many times have you gotten… Continue reading The Stories We Tell Ourselves
It isn't that I hadn't noticed that my pajama pants were tattered. It was hard not to notice, I just couldn't bring myself to throw them away. Giving ourselves permission to do what we know needs to be done gives us freedom. And a lesson.